So, Harvey Weinstein has finally
got his comeuppance for his evil behaviour towards women. With the number of
people who have come out with allegations of rape and sexual harassment, it is
no longer a case of who he molested, but who did he not molest? What is
peculiar about this incident is its domino effect. Women all over the world who
have suffered one form of harassment or another are beginning to come forward.
The UK defence secretary was forced to resign for historic harassment
allegations. Three law makers have had to do the same in the United States. In
the US, UK, and in France, politicians, celebrities, actors and comedians are
quaking in their boots for past misdemeanours. What is clear is that this
singular case has had a Jimmy Saville/Bill Cosby effect - one allegation was
treated with credence and it felt easier for every victim to come forward.
Like many evils in our world, it
has taken decades for this to come out partly because Weinstein was very rich
and powerful. But came out, it did. This may be little consolation to those who
were abused, molested or allegedly raped, some of them no doubt, have been
scarred for ever and may never recover from their ordeal. Hopefully, justice
would be done, and all of them would be able to move on with their lives.
While all this was happening, my
thoughts were nearer home. When is the dam of sexual predatory going to burst
in Nigeria? And will it ever happen? It isn’t just the odd cases of locker room
talk or male flirtatiousness that takes place in Nigeria; but serious
harassment and sexual exploitation of women. We all know of men - politicians,
religious leaders, captains of industry, entertainers, bosses - long associated
in the rumour mill with sexual predatory on women. In the culture of Nigeria,
sexual harassment is pervasive. I hope for a backlash against these miscreants, just like what is
happening in Europe and North America at the moment.
We all know of banks that tacitly
support the exploitation of female staff through the bullish way they are
pressured to sign on rich customers or lose their job/promotion.
We all probably know of someone
who had taken advantage of a woman either recently or in the past. He may not
consider it to be rape, the victim may not even cry foul because she believed
she placed herself in that position. But think again! If a woman was raped in
Nigeria, where would she report the crime?
We know what happens in our
educational institutions. The question is: Are we ever going to declare a
zero-tolerance stance on university and college lecturers who sexually harass,
abuse and exploit female students? This has gone on for ages, and very few, if
any had ever faced justice. We all know it goes on. It is in fact, an accepted
part of college life in Nigeria that a female student would be propositioned by
many, if not most of her lecturers.
What about the bullying and
sexual harassment in offices across the country. It is well known that many
male bosses pester their female subordinates for sex. In most cases, it is not
a mutually agreeable contract. It's purely a show of power – I am your boss, and you must play ball,
otherwise, you would lose your job. Many women in this situation
acquiesce. Even for some that are mentally strong, how many can resist the
bullying, the threats, the cajoling, and the constant pressure? As this is so
rampant, any regular man with a wife, daughter or sister should be riled, and
must be concerned.
For the perpetrators, it is
perhaps simply a numbers game. The more women they harass, the more they
increase their chances of success. The fact that most Nigerians; women
included, are essentially non-confrontational also make sexual predators to
assume that their advances are welcomed. Ironically, these predators have so
many things in their favour. Firstly, sexual harassment is tacitly accepted and
expected. Everyone knows a boss who sleeps with his staff. I must reiterate
that these arrangements are usually not mutual. Secondly, we don't have strong
laws to encourage women to come forward and complain about sexual harassment,
so victims hardly ever do so. Importantly, we have a culture that
essentially trains men not to respect women. Our systems and traditions still
see women of any age or marital status as preys to be had by men. For example,
we have a sitting senator in our national assembly that openly married a
13-year-old girl. The press who should hold these people to account is for all
intents and purposes useless. Many of our media houses implicitly collude with
the high and mighty leaving serious misdemeanours unreported and unchallenged.
Sadly, our fainthearted churches
lack the stomach for the fight against sexual exploitation of women too. While
the church leaders (who are mostly male) may feel they do not directly condone
harassment, however, the deep worry is that the biases against women that
encourages sexual harassment have proven difficult to identify and correct
within individuals. So, there are many cases of religious of leaders who
consider any attempt by women to exert themselves, as rebellion against their
husbands, against the church, and by extension against God. Our women get this,
and do not want to rock the boat. In fact, many of them who are highly
intelligent make every attempt to diminish their talents just so that they can
conform to societal expectations and mores. Because women have sadly been this
socialised not to make a fuss at harassment, they are subjected to a barrage of
profanity, and humiliation that no one should have to deal with.
In other words, social attitude,
mores, lack of legal protection, cultural acceptance that men will be men, have
all seen to it that victims of sexual crimes are effectively silenced, and
perpetrators emboldened. How can we then expect people who have been abused to
come forward if they are going to be attacked by their accusers, ignored by the
press and ridiculed by the public. This evil virus has continued its spread for
too long in Nigeria because even the good people are assailed by doubts about
how much should be done to stamp it out.
But now is the time when everyone
who knew about a sexual predator pastor, boss, neighbour and did nothing need
to ask the question: What type of person am I?
Now is the time for us to
challenge our religious leaders to talk about this issue. Never mind whether
paying tithe is biblical or not, now is the time for the church to be bold and
champion the fight against harassment of women and women subjugation in
general.
Now is the time to confront and
rebuke those who prey on women at work.
Now is the time to petition our
legislators for strong anti-harassment laws
Now is the time to expose bosses
who bully their female subordinates for sex.
Now is the time for lawyers to
come forward, and judges to join them in ensuring speedy prosecution for
perpetrators of sex crimes.
Now is the time to change our
attitude of blaming victims of sexual violence for their own indiscretion. A
crime is a crime, so blame the criminal, not the victim.
Now is the time for justice for
Nigerian women who are raped, bullied and sexually exploited by employers,
aristos, lecturers, money-men and even boyfriends.
Now is the time to look again at
the issue of female domestic maids many of whom face the double whammy of
violence and sexual exploitation. Let’s remember the epidemic of violence
against women in our society disproportionately affects low income women who
are silenced by their economic situations.
This is a moment of great social
change. It may be painful, it may provoke attacks. It may even lead to a deep
rupture in our social culture. But we must brave it. We must encourage victims
to brave it. We must expect attack on credibility. Your past may be up for
scrutiny, but we all must continue to bat on the side of those who are seeking
for justice. If not, injustices and evil will thrive on our watch.
Now is the time to signal that as
a country, we want this model of culture-based backlash against women upended.
Like most Nigerians, I am
hardwired for a kind of stoic pessimism. This goes with the near certainty that
nothing will happen even when it should. But I truly hope my pessimism is dealt
a blow this time. And that the dam will burst. And sexual predators will be
brought to justice. I truly hope so.
As we say, every day is for the
thief, but one day, just one day, the thief will find himself in the net of
justice. I hope the chicken of sexual predators in Nigeria will come home to roost one day. I hope
it will be sooner rather than later. PostcardfromLagos
Photocredit: mightynurse.com
Photocredit: mightynurse.com
